Individuals

I serve individuals of all genders and orientations online and in my Denver, CO office.

Whether or not you’re currently partnered, our work cultivates self-awareness and relational mindfulness, essential ingredients for personal growth and fulfilling relationships.

We do more than talk. We slow down and attend to all of you – mind, body, heart, and soul. We dig deep, take risks, and get experimental to uncover what brings you alive and what gets in the way. We learn and practice skills and engage play for discovery. This is not a passive process. Rather, we co-create our time together by attuning to your specific needs and your right pace.

You are invited to feel everything, no matter how big or small. All emotions, wounds, traumas, sensations, pleasure, and curiosities have the space to express and be known. We use breath, sound, movement, mindfulness, and sometimes touch as tools to reconnect you to the most essential parts of yourself.

While I’m your guide, you are your greatest teacher. We trust the intelligence of your intentions, pleasure, pain, and protections to inform the pace and content of our work. I have no agenda outside of your stated goals and although it’s my job to lovingly challenge you along the way, nothing ever needs to happen.  

Individuals might come to explore:

  • Your relationship with pleasure is centered around consumption – food, porn, shopping, scrolling, etc…and you want to cultivate a more life-affirming relationship with pleasure.

    You’re not sure why but you resist deeply nourishing pleasure, including self-pleasure/masturbation.

    You want to learn the nature of your pleasure by getting present and building a moment-to-moment relationship with your sensations with no pressure to perform.

    You want to explore pleasure on your terms, where the only touch that happens is exactly what you want and nothing you don’t.

    You want to learn new avenues for self-pleasure, pleasure with others, or cultivating states of expanded orgasm .

  • Consent is an agreement that can be changed at any moment. Negotiating consent is far more nuanced than ‘hell yes’ and ‘hell no’ and our nervous system has much to teach us in the realm of consent.

    You want to grow your understanding of consent and strengthen healthy boundaries through practicing both.

    You have a sense that healthy boundaries would provide you more access to safety, leading to more desire and thriving. You’ve historically been ‘under-bounded’ or ‘over-bounded’ and you want to develop boundaries that keep you both protected and connected.

    You want to learn how to better respect and honor other’s boundaries and develop communication skills that support healthy relationships.

  • You know desires hold the keys to your soul’s deepest longings but you have a hard time accessing them. Maybe you have no idea what you desire because you’ve never felt permission to explore it.

    Perhaps you remember desire but you’re not sure where it went and you want to make sense of it.

    Your erotic imagination has never been free to run wild and you want to explore and experiment.

    Your desires have gotten you in trouble and you want to learn how to make decisions that are more in line with your values.

    You want to learn how receive and give with a whole heart, to better understand the difference between wanting and willing, and to allow yourself to want more.

    Learn how to ask for what you want in a well-bounded space that needs nothing from you.

    Learning what’s in the way of accessing the desire that lives in you begins the process of liberating you from it.

  • You want to explore your physical map and your pleasure map of your anatomy of arousal.

    You would like to learn to embrace your changing body and arousal patterns and better understand how your particular arousal system works right now.

    You want to understand how context affects arousal and why your turn on can be elusive.

    You want to explore arousal in a pressure free environment, where the touch needs nothing from you.

    You’d like to experience non-ordinary states of consciousness during arousal or you’d like to expand your access to them.

  • You need help orienting to a new life. Maybe you’ve recently moved in or out with someone, gotten a new job or want to, became a parent, lost someone close, or you want support figuring out whether you’re in the right relationship and you need a safe place to bring your questions.

    Your body or mental functioning has changed due to birth, surgery, illness, or the natural process of aging and you want a space to explore and learn your new shape.

    Change is difficult for you and you want to support your nervous system to be able to take risks and lean into a more fulfilling life.

  • You never received proper sex education and you want a safe place to explore your questions, and discover questions you never thought to ask.

    You are a healing professional and you want to learn how to be with your clients sex and relationship concerns.

    You feel pulled toward this work, potentially as a professional. You’re already a student or you’re curious about becoming one.

    You need help finding ways to have honest, sometimes difficult conversations with your partner about sex and so much more.

  • There are a lot of ‘shoulds’ taking up space in your mind and your body and your sexual experiences don’t match the images you see in the media. You think you’re broken or weird.

    You have pelvic pain or discomfort during sex and you want to find relief or a different way of having a sexual exchange that is actually pleasurable.

    You have erectile issues, unintended ejaculation, or delayed ejaculation and you’d like support accepting yourself and expanding your sexual menu options and erotic map.

    You have never experienced an orgasm, or it’s illusive and you want to find ways to have pleasure without an orgasm or you want to try and find or recover it.

    You feel guilty about your fantasy life and your relationship with porn feels unhealthy to you because its affecting your ability to connect with other humans, to get aroused without imagery, or your compulsive behaviors negatively impact your life. You want to find your right relationship with porn so you can come into more acceptance of yourself.

  • Old traumas are getting in the way of your best life and you’ve heard that trauma healing happens through the body rather than the mind.

    You freeze in stressful or sexual situations or you don’t have the resilience to stay when the going gets tough and you want to understand why and heal.

    You need embodied somatic practices and a place to express and sequence what got stuck or shocked to make space for thriving and sexual vibrancy.

    A part of you blames yourself and you need a compassionate space to see yourself and your situation more clearly.

    Maybe the trauma you carry isn’t a direct assault but is a result of intergenerational or cultural imprints and you’re ready to let them go.

  • Shame is a mechanism of control and it keeps us small, conforming, and unexpressed.

    Nobody is born with shame, it’s a cultural phenomenon that we pick up to ‘fit in’ with our families, religion, society, friends, school, community.

    We can be shamed or we can shame ourselves for our thoughts, words, or actions, suffocating our feelings of belonging.

    Shame keeps us separate, even though its trying to ‘protect us’ and we work to root out the limiting beliefs that accompany shame.

    Learn to accept, fully own, and love your body, gender, and sexuality.

  • I included these categories to give you a sense of what we may explore but they certainly aren’t exhaustive of all we might get up to.

    As everything is related, many of these topics overlap and intertwine and we’ll co-create our work together based on your personal wishes, intentions, and goals and what emerges during our time together.

What to Expect

Lasting change happens over time and with repetition. Working with me is not a quick fix and awkwardness or discomfort is a normal part of the growth process. As you shift your orientation towards wholeness and pleasure rather than what’s not well or not working, you’ll be rewarded with more of it, likely quicker than you think. What may seem like small tweaks that have nothing to do with sex can change the dynamics of your intimate life and all of your relationships in surprising and fulfilling ways.

In addition to ongoing sessions, I offer Immersion packages. This approach is great for folks living outside of CO or for locals who feel inspired to dig deep into a body of exploration and work in a short time. Immersions include one or more Zoom sessions followed by multiple in-person sessions over 1 week, and conclude with an integration session on Zoom. Clients leave an immersion reoriented towards a new and more possible future, forever impacted by how they experienced themselves during our time together. Inquire for more information.

I found Chris when old trauma I had not fully dealt with was bubbling up, causing me to fall into freeze states, particularly in the bedroom.  Chris created a space where I could speak openly without shame or worry and I was delighted and surprised about how quick I was seeing improvements. Our work together helped me shift out of these patterns and brought me back to a world of safety, pleasure, connection and confidence. I feel a much deeper and honest connection to myself, my needs, my boundaries, my partner, and my true essence.

— Sarah

What People Are Saying

I came to Chris with some sexual trauma, discomfort with close contact and a lot of room for healing. She met me in every way. Muse brings comfort, fun, education, curiosity and pleasure to a subject matter that I previously approached with a tentative, awkward and often fearful body-mind. Chris’s wonder of the body walks with your discovery, so you can together, broaden your experience of self through relationship. You never feel alone. She holds your hand the entire way...and on the other side is a great expanse.”

— Loretta